I have another confession... I took a week off work and sent my child to daycare

Sunday, July 20, 2014

I have a confession: I was on vacation from work this past week and sent mini-me to daycare every day but one. I'm that mom.

I have a number of what I feel are legitimate rationalizations for my decision, but they're just that, rationalizations.

The bottom line is that I couldn't get everything done I wanted and needed to do with mini-me home (I also have to pay for daycare regardless of if I send her or not but that's just one of my many rationalizations).





I dropped her off late and picked her up early, but I still sent her to daycare. While I was home. 

The reactions I got when I told people about this were varied. I got some blank stares, some judgmental eyes (or was that my own mom-guilt at play?) and even some "good for you's". I also caught myself explaining my decision every. single. time. 

I didn't accomplish nearly as much as I had hoped but I did get some key things done. It's so much easier to clean toilets without worrying about a toddler touching the toilet brush (I will never understand why that god-forsaken thing is so appealing to little people). It's so much easier to vacuum without someone chasing you trying to jump on top of it. It's a luxury to run something upstairs quickly without having to worry about leaving the gate open. The list could go on...

Don't get me wrong, I adore mini-me and I want to spend so much more time with her, but I also need to be able to wash the floors so that when she falls it's not into the sticky residue that is the remains of last night's dinner that was thrown because she would have rather had fruit.

Mini-me loves daycare and they love her. I didn't want to keep her home to watch me clean, accompany me to Costco etc. I love showing her off, but it can't be much fun for her. Ugh, I'm rationalizing again.

I did keep mini-me home on Thursday and made sure to dedicate the day to her. We went to a local indoor play center first thing and spent over 2 hours there. Mini-me and mom just playing all morning. We both had a blast. Naptime was inevitable - I tuckered her out and was followed by a joint lunch. Then, we met some friends down at the waterfront for a walk, snacks on a blanket, visit with the ducks, and playing in the park. We both had a truly amazing day and focused on enjoying each other's company. It wasn't rushed, it wasn't about anything other than spending time together. It was perfect.






when you're a mom it's important to:
  • still be a person outside being a mom
  • allow yourself the time and space to do things important to you (or necessary for the functioning of your household)
  • make your time count, for you and your little ones - if you have spare time, use it wisely
I took a week off work and sent my child to daycare and she loves me anyways because I made the most of all our extra time together. 



I took a week off work and sent my child to daycare BUT every moment I spent with her, the lingering in the mornings, the playing in the front yard before dinner because I picked her up early, and our wonderful girl's day together made me sure of my decision. I took a week off work and sent my child to daycare and I don't regret it. I'm still a good mom. I'm now just a mom with a cleaner house, a fully stocked freezer, a groomed dog, and cute toes (okay, that last one was a luxury but it is called a vacation afterall). 

16 comments:

  1. You are a wonderful momma and you need to do what you need to do, eff what anyone thinks. I would (and have) done the exact same.

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  2. I often think of this! I get a week off every 4 weeks, and I am often tempted to send Palmer to the dayhome, but I rarely do unless I have appointments or something. I feel guilty sending her, like I am suppose to be spending all that time with her because all the other days in the month, I am working. But you're right, I am a person outside of being a mom too, and sometimes just need a day to myself!! Great post, mama!!!

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    1. Oh I hear you on the guilt, but I convinced myself that she has fun at daycare and watching me clean and doing groceries wouldn't be much fun. The time i did save for her was such special time devoted just for her!

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  3. I don't blame you at all! When I used to work still, I would take 1-2 days off a year to spend alone or with my hubby... like one time we went to a winery. Now that I stay at home, I will have my Mom watch them one day a week and I usually craft, clean, run, whatever I feel like... :) I think every Momma deserves a break! And those Mom's that give you bad looks need to look at themselves! ;)

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    1. And I bet those days are just what you need to recharge and be a great mommy to your kids!

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  4. "when you're a mom it's important to:
    still be a person outside being a mom
    allow yourself the time and space to do things important to you (or necessary for the functioning of your household)"

    This. That's all you need. It's impossible to get things done when you have a toddler. They suck at entertaining themselves and (unfortunately) houses suck at cleaning themselves, showers need to get taken, fridges need to get stocked, toes need to be painted. Everyone and everything is so damn needy - sometimes, kids need to be sent to daycare even if we're not at work - because we are working...we're just doing it at a different location than usual.

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    1. I LOVE that last line! So true, it's still work, it's just not at the office!
      Also, I need a self-cleaning house!

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  5. Don't blame you at all, I would be the mom giving you a high five that you had a stay-cation and sent her to daycare. Good for you! You got stuff done, you feel relaxed and ready to tackle the world again. For all those that judge, screw them!

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  6. You are such a smart, wise young mommy! Wish I would have known you when my boys were little...:)

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    1. haha I have my moments!!!
      I'm just thankful to know you now!

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  7. I do that too! We sometimes get off work a few hours early and I leave my kids at daycare and run to the store alone...work on my blog...fold laundry...ANYTHING! Those few moments of sanity makeup for all of the crazy...Like when the 2 year old licked my arm over and over tonight :-/

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    1. hahahah that just made me laugh outloud because it's so something I could see mini-me doing!
      Arm-licking aside, you're right, a few minutes of quiet sanity are key to functioning on crazy days!

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  8. It's all good. It's hard to get things done when the mini's are stuck to our sides.

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