I feel pretty (mommy makeover)

Thursday, July 3, 2014

I had another 'me' day this past Saturday. It seems like I have been doing that a bit lately.

As a mom, I walk the very fine line between what I need/deserve and feeling guilty about spending time away from my family. Mom guilt is a son of a.... I may need to dedicate a whole post to this at some point.

Anyways, this past Saturday I had an amazing day. Mr. B took mini-me to my dad and stepmom's house (2 hours away) and one of my besties and I embarked on a fun adventure. We entered a contest. I hesitated telling people about it because I was embarrassed. The contest is a 'beauty' contest. Not the "what you look like" kind of beauty, but it's about embodying beauty. So you get your hair and makeup done, a mini-photoshoot, a digital image of the pic of your choice, and entered into the contest (more info about the contest here). Winners are chosen not by what they look like, but who they are, and how they represent beauty and the empowerment of women.

So I'm trying to process why I didn't want to tell anyone. I'm going to be blunt (shocking, I know) but the main reason I didn't tell people because I was worried that people's initial reaction would be "oh, you think you're a model?" And now that I think about it, my fear about what people would think makes me kind of sad. Now I am embarrassed that I wasn't brave enough or confident enough to just say 'I'm entering this contest, check me out'.

I'm putting this out there because it forces me to be honest with myself. If I can fully acknowledge my worries about judgement, maybe one day I'll worry a little less. And I guess, by putting it on the internet, I'm opening myself up to all kinds of judgement and that's okay. I am forcing myself out of my comfort zone (regularly it would seem) because that's how we grow.



It may be apparent at this point in time that I have (and still do at times) struggle with my self-confidence. It's been an ongoing thing and I'm at a pretty good place right now but not where I'd want my daughter to be. I'm a work in progress, we all are. My confidence is no exception but I'm working on it. I truly believe that if mini-me sees me taking (and making) time to feel beautiful, she will do the same and know it's okay (and encouraged).

Regardless of the judgement I was worried about, I had an amazing time. I hung out with some awesome ladies who made me feel like a star. What woman doesn't need AND deserve that? Hair, makeup, a photoshoot. Honestly, I felt like a million bucks. THAT is what it was about for me. It's too seldom we take the time to really focus on ourselves, on fostering our self-confidence and self-love. This served as a great reminder and re-focus for me. I am worth it.



I am not going to lie, there were uncomfortable moments. Like when they told me I was going to wear a pair of pants as a dress (WTF?!) and then there's the fact it was short. BUT it all worked out.

What's the takeaway for me this time? Stop giving a sh!t about what people think and do what makes me happy. I had fun and felt more confident so already it was worth it. I would have done it even if there was no contest (and would do it again). ALLOW yourself the time and space to practice taking care of yourself and loving yourself. Yeah, it's cheesy, but essential to your well-being.

I need to worry so much less about how other people see me and the things I do and focus on making me happy and being a good mom, wife and person. ALSO, a happy, well-rested, fun-filled, mom and wife is a better mom and wife. That's a fact!

Do I think I'm a model? No.
Do I think I deserve to feel beautiful? YES, EVERY freaking day! And so do you!
Does being a mom mean I lose sight of me as a person? heck no! And luckily I have an awesome hubby who will take mini-me so I can have these experiences that remind me of that.

This is more about me and less about worrying about everyone else. Anyone who chooses to judge, that's more about them than me anyways.




Most importantly, I felt pretty!

25 comments:

  1. yay! I thought you were doing something, but wasn't sure what it was. So important to feel good about yourself and to feel confident in who you are, your kids see and feel everything. They'll fell your confidence and in turn will grow into healthy confident adults, with good self image, etc. Sounds like a blast!

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    1. Couldn't agree more! So important to set a good example.

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  2. Wait....that dress you're wearing is pants?! That's amazing - I've been admiring it for a few days now. You rock the pants-dress like a superstar!
    Separating me-me from mom-me is such a struggle. I'm glad you're finding such fun ways to do that!

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    1. YES! Gaucho pants. I thought they were putting them on me as pants so I made a face, then she said "no, you're wearing them as a dress". It was tighter and shorter than I'd put myself in, but whatever.

      Finding the 'me' outside of my mom role is a challenge, and I struggle with guilt for taking time away from mini-me, but I'm worth it and it makes me a better mom so we all benefit!

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  3. What an amazing day, and you truly look stunning! I've always struggled with self confidence (in middle school my nickname was TTFU - too tall flat and ugly). Lately I've really been trying to focus on what makes me beautiful and not care what anybody else thinks. You are setting such a good example for your daughter - you're a great mama!

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    1. omg Lana that's awful. I think you're beautiful both on the outside AND in! You're such a kind person.
      thank you so much, it helps me feel less guilty when I get such great feedback!

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  4. I get the mom guilt. It's hard. You look wonderful.

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    1. I know, we all have it regardless if it's warranted or not.

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  5. I think this is really cool of you! I would have been nervous, too... just to tell other people. I wouldn't have any problem telling close friends, but everyone else I wouldn't want to know! You look beautiful!

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    1. I know, but why wouldn't you tell people? Think about it :) You're a beautiful women and you'd totally be a top contender because you're beautiful on the inside and out... if that's not worth sharing what is?

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  6. I'm so proud of you for busting out of your comfort zone and doing this. When I actually decided to be an actress/model, I got a lot of flack, even from the people who should've been the most supportive. Why? I don't know. If I had announced I was going to med school or doing something else that's daring I doubt I would've gotten the same reaction. You are a beautiful person inside and out and I'm so happy to see you step into owning that. This is just the first of many things to come. And the pictures are drop dead gorgeous, you really could be a model!

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    1. First, i'm not sure how anyone could doubt your ability to be a model, you're stunning!! And thank you, it was so fun to do!

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  7. You've always been beautiful! I'm glad you had fun on Saturday...I sure did...loved reading about it and love you! xo

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    1. Love you too!! So thankful for all our time together lately :)

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  8. Shaunacey!! Grab your girls and come to London so they can all experience what you did! Our mission is to enrich and help empower women to be the very best they can be!!! So glad the experience was so great for you!

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  9. Love your honesty, friend! Just acknowledging and talking about those fears helps to conquer them. You looked beautiful...stunning! :)

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  10. WOW! I'm so glad you had such and amazing time! I'll say it now and I'll say it again, I'm doubting this frumpy mommy business! Girl time is sacred and what you're also teaching your daughter is the importance of maintaining positive relationships with others and yourself! I think what you've done sounds amazing, up lifting and by all accounts confidence building....GOOD for YOU for entering! And way to snag a good man ;)

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    1. haha I SWEAR I have frumpy tendancies AND that I wore yoga pants for the better part of a year (and mostly when I wasn't working out!).
      I have snagged a great man, he's not only a great husband but an amazing dad to mini-me

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  11. Oh girl, I completely understand and know all the feelings you are experiencing. I struggle greatly with my self-confidence. I went through a makeover for a day as well. One of my friends who is a photographer made me up and took some photos. It was a great confidence booster! I actually blogged about that here: http://andthismarinewife.com/2013/09/my-weight-struggle.html.

    I found you through a link party and am enjoying reading around your blog. I'm now a new follower on Bloglovin'. :)

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    1. thanks so much Lydia! I'm going to check out that link and your blog!

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  12. I love you and your honesty! What a great beauty pageant- I can confidently say you are beautiful insde and out. Keep rocking it, embrace you and forget about what people think, it will never define your worth. Youmdefine that all by yourself! Xo, Keila

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    1. you're the sweetest Keila! I'm not sure why it's such as struggle to not worry about what other people think but I'm working on it!

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    2. I've struggled with this all my,life as well! It's a tough thing to get over. But you are doing so wonderfully stepping out of youe comfort zone and experiencing new things (that are life-bringing) ! And as you said that is when we grow most- big hugs!

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