celebrating ME (as a mom)!

Sunday, May 11, 2014

First, happy mother's day to all the mommas out there. To all those wanting to become moms, to those missing their moms, to those being both mom and dad to little ones. This day is for all of you.

Now, I thought about what to write for mother's day. I kept thinking about writing about mini-me, how much she changed my life when she made me a mother, how beautiful that is. I considered writing about my husband, how great and supportive he is to me. Then it hit me, this day is about me. It's a day to celebrate me as a mom. 

As mothers, we often give so much. We give so selflessly and often without a second thought. We are constantly giving to the point we are often not giving ourselves enough. We're also way too hard on ourselves. 

I can't tell you the number of times over the past year and a bit that I have said mini-me deserves a better mom. I have felt guilt for many things, wished for more patience and doubted myself and my abilities.

Right now, my mother's day gift to myself is that for a few sentences I am going to celebrate me, and try and mean it. My challenge to you is to really give yourself credit where credit is due today. For a few minutes, make it about you, celebrate YOU!



Why I AM a good mother:

  1. I sing children's songs anytime anywhere. In the car, in the grocery store or the doctor's waiting room. I'm pretty much armed and ready at any given time with a plethora of children's songs and accompanying actions and I truly don't give a crap what people think of me as long as it makes mini-me smile.
  2. I'm a great cook! I cook healthy meals and I bake (when time permits of course). I learned my skills from my mom and grandma and mini-me is next in line!
  3. I teach her things. Mini-me is a genius (obviously) but I always make a point to explain what I am doing, tell her what things are called, show her how to do things. It makes things take longer, but I do it anyways. Whether she understands right now or not (though I believe she does), I am always trying to share with her as much as possible.
  4. No matter what (minus the double ear infection episode) I can make her smile. When she is tired, hungry, cold, hot or whatever, I can almost always figure out a way to make her smile. It's like my mommy super power. (is there a cape for that?)
  5. I am a good role model. I believe in equality and I try and speak out against injustices and oppression. It's not always appreciated or understood but it's something so important to me and mini-me will see this and be a better person because of it.
  6. I write her letters. I started a blog when I found out I was pregnant and as soon as she was born it turned into letters to her. How could I write about her abstractly now that she was here? She'll be able to one day read all these letters and know just how much she changed my life, just how absolutely precious she is.
  7. I give constantly. When I'm grumpy and tired, when I have a zillion other things I feel I should be doing, I still give mini-me my everything.
  8. I love her more than anything in the world and I tell her and show her all of the time. She will never, ever, doubt how much she is loved, it's my job to make sure of that and it's a job I take very seriously.



A little reflection: this was harder than I thought. It's so hard to keep it about me and keep it positive. Everything I said was true but it wasn't easy to come by. I NEED to get better about celebrating what makes me a good mom (and wife and friend etc) and work to foster those things. 

TO DO: be nicer to me!! 

I must add the highlight of my day: was when I kissed Mr. B while he was holding mini-me and then she kept pushing our faces together to make us kiss over and over with kisses for each of us in between.

Seriously? This kid melts my heart!

16 comments:

  1. Beautiful post by a beautiful mom!

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  2. Awww...I love this! You are obviously an outstanding mommy. We moms have such a hard time focusing on ourselves. Have a great week!

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    1. thanks so much Lana, we need to be better about focusing on ourselves because I KNOW when I do, it makes me a better mom and wife!

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  3. Aww, what a great post! Yes we do have to remind ourselves of that so many times, when we feel like we are failing miserably! You are a great mama! Love all those letters to Mini-me! So cute, I did the same with my first and then turned them all into a book, now doing it for the second one and well, it's a lot harder to keep up with weekly letters! haha :)

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    1. thanks Sarah!
      The book is a great idea! I'll have to remember that!

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  4. Happy mother's day! I loved reading this post, so great to see a mom step back and focus on what she's doing well.

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    1. thanks Beth, it was REALLY challenging not to say "well I'm not so good at ___ but..."
      We can be so gentle with others and so hard on ourselves!

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  5. She is cuter than words!!
    And did I know you were local enough to get to Vaughan Mills?????

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  6. You are an AWESOME momma, so keep those good thoughts coming! I completely understand how easy it is to focus on our "failures" (which are usually not failures at all...they just seem that way at the time) and ignore all the good things, because they're usually little or seemingly insignificant. But all those little things add up and in the end, they're what matter!
    Happy Mother's Day!

    Chelsea

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    1. Thanks Chelsea! The little things do add up and we need to remind ourselves that there are lots of things we do well

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  7. I completely LOVE this. We are so good at beating ourselves up as mamas, aren't we? It's very refreshing to see a mom focusing on what you're doing right. As long as we're loving our kids unconditionally, we're are doing a-ok. :)

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    1. it's almost like the mom title comes with self-doubt and self-persecution. Gotta work on that!

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  8. Such a beautiful post! You are a great Mom! We all need to step back every so often and remind ourselves of that! Hope you had a wonderful Mother's Day!

    Jill
    dousedinpink.blogspot.com

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